Friends with an ex? Will it help rekindle the flame?

although i am not familiar with marriage just yet, i do know that it is very important to be honest. honesty is key in any sort of relationship. it seems as if you two are having trouble drawing the line between friendship and lovers. As a woman i know that women dont just talk with a man that they were once attracted to just to end up as friends. she wants the relationship to continue but it worried about the end result and how her life will change. i am sure she is going through the pro's and con's of your relationship. time is key, you will know when the time feels right to confront her about where things may or may not be going. as far as your part goes, show her the positive things about you. show her what she is missing and what she cant have. almost like playing a game. but dont twiddle with her emotions. make sure you are honest, and loyal and there when she needs you. when the time is right tell her you are changing for the better, tell her your friendship means more than anything to you but that you want the both of you to grow together and mature as one. ( in your own words of course) dont be a smooth talker just speak like you would speak to a family member. i wish the best to both of you. And remember, you should rather be friends than to lose her entirely.